Our marriage isn’t perfect. I just want to make that clear. We LOVE marriage — it’s our anthem. Working together, doing daily life together … spending literally every waking + sleeping moment together … it’s how we do things around here!! Choosing to marry one another is something both Caleb + I agree was one of the best + most significant decisions of our lives.
We love the teamwork that comes with marriage. We love the feeling of knowing that someone will always have your back, no matter what. We love being best friends AND lovers. We love that we have someone to share our joys + our sorrows with. We love that there is someone in our lives who truly knows us better than anyone, who sees us in our best + our worst moments, + still loves us. There are SO many things we love about it!
But I want to make it clear that as much as we LOVE marriage — as much as we believe in its power + advocate for its commitment — our marriage is NOT perfect. And another secret? No one’s is. It’s something that I think we all know, but how often do we find ourselves comparing our relationships + marriages to those around us? Thinking they’re doing something better, or they have it a bit easier in a certain aspect of their lives/marriage than we do, etc. I know I do this!!
The purpose of this post today is to say that I hope no one ever looks at our marriage + thinks those things. Because Caleb + I individually aren’t perfect people (shocking, I know ; )), + bringing us together in relationship surely doesn’t result in a perfect marriage. We have to DAILY make choices that put our marriage first. Choices that aren’t easy, but always worth it. Choices like selflessness. Forgiveness. Respect. Choices like taking intentional time to sit + check in on how we think things are going in our relationship. Discussing what we can individually do to better love + serve our spouse. Or what we’ve done to hurt one another. We have to own up to our mistakes (this one is really hard for me) + choose to forgive when we’ve been wronged. Some things come easier to us than others, but as a whole, we have to WORK + CHOOSE to have a marriage that is successful. It doesn’t just happen.
Our marriage isn’t perfect. No one’s is!! Would you remember that today (+ any other day you need this message)?