Several weeks ago, I posted on Instagram asking brides to send me wedding planning questions they had so I could blog about these various questions and topics! Like we’ve said many times in the past, we have been to a LOT of wedding days (and seen the behind-the-scenes of a LOT of wedding days!!) but for most brides, it is their first time planning a wedding! While we know that we don’t have the ONE right way of doing things or the ONLY or BEST tips/advice/suggestions, all we can do is give our personal perspective and opinions in hopes that it will serve couples who connect with us and are planning their wedding!
One bride sent this:
I need tips on how to prioritize tiny details. For example, I see lots of detail pictures with flowers, special stamps, ribbon, decorative trays, fancy ring boxes, etc. and it can be intimidating to think about purchasing and finding all of those small things. And that doesn’t even include small reception things (ex: charger plates)! How can you keep focused on the big picture and have the right small details but not go crazy?
Yessss, girl. I think that a LOT of brides can relate to this question! I am so glad she sent this over and I hope that my post today will give a bit of insight! I have two main takeaways after reading this question:
- If the thought of finding vintage stamps, special ribbon, a unique ring box, etc. stresses you out like none other, I would suggest that maybe you are trying to do something that isn’t innately YOU. Just because other brides have/want these things in their photos doesn’t mean that you have to have them in your photos! If you’re not a detail person (and trust me, not everyone is!), then don’t force yourself to be : ) When I think back to the brides who had details coming out of their ears on their wedding day, I can see their faces on the morning of the wedding and how EXCITED they are to show those details to me because they love the details, they loved planning them, and they had FUN finding them! It’s just a part of their personality and who they are!
- Maybe point #1 resonates with you a bit — you do feel stressed about finding all the extra details but that doesn’t mean you don’t want them for your day and in your photos! You love the touch of the vintage stamps but you feel stressed about finding them. If this is you, OUTSOURCE!! Set a budget with your groom for these extra things (ribbon, ring box, stamps, tray, etc.) and ask your friend who would LOVE to find these things for you (we all have that person!) to do it FOR you! I’m sure he/she would love to help you find these special touches and then you still get them in your photos but you didn’t have to really do any work! : )
I plan to do a follow up post in a couple of weeks aimed around specifically planning and prepping for the detail photos in the beginning of the day! So stay tuned for that : ) I can’t stress enough, however, in wrapping things up, that it’s important to stay true to who you are on your wedding day and not get caught up in whatever everyone else thinks/says/wants. Planning a wedding is a HUGE feat and so personally, I think it’s a bit unrealistic to say that you can totally avoid any and all stress of planning. It’s just a natural thing that happens to everyone! But doing things that you feel good about and making decisions that feel fun and exciting to YOU are so important as you are planning! If details are one of those things, run with it! I get that, I am a details person. If they’re not, there is NOTHING wrong with you : )
I hope this post was helpful! I LOVE writing posts that serve the brides in our sphere so if you are one of them and have a question that you want me to blog about, please leave it below in a comment or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org!!
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