Many of you know that last year, we launched a monthly marriage newsletter. Every month, sending out two discussion questions/prompts for couples around the topics of money, sex, and conflict in marriage. Our hope was that the questions would help couples have the deeper (and oftentimes harder) conversations if they didn’t have to think of what to talk to about themselves; and that perhaps, the questions would produce a sort of “snow-ball-effect” leading to increased conversation that is both vulnerable and transformational in their marriage. More on the why behind the newsletter in this post!
The newsletter quickly became our passion project.
As we saw our number of subscribers grow and our blog/social media posts on topics relating to marriage get the most engagement, we KNEW we had to press deeper into what God seems to be doing in our lives.
We are the Engels.
We are! Of course, that’s our last name ; )
But it’s ALSO something that we are launching … today!!
We’re not exactly sure what this is going to look like or where (or if!) it will go, but our desire to authentically share our marriage experiences with others in hopes to both relate and inspire couples continues to grow and has gotten to a point where we need to separate it from our photography business.
We’ve always said that we really believe we have the GREATEST job in the world for our specific personalities because it combines two of our life’s greatest passions — photography and marriage. This is so true and is still true! It always will be. But if we want to be TRULY authentic and be posting LOTS of marriage content for those who want it/need it, then it needs to have its own space.
For now, that space will begin on Instagram! As of today, we have launched our We are the Engels account (!!!!!!!!!!) so be sure to follow us there if marriage content is something you are interested in. We plan to share stories, experiences, tips, ideas, maybe even some house stuff (!?!) and will be posting 3-5x per week. Since this is so new to us and our goal is to SERVE other marriages, we have created a very brief survey that will always be open as a space to share questions, blog ideas, content ideas, feedback, etc. It can be found here and even if you can’t think of something now, know that it will always exist so you can come back later OR even fill it out lots of times as questions or ideas come up in your own life and marriage!
My husband, who DESPISES social media, is totally on board for this so you know that’s saying something! ; ) While my voice will still be prevalent over on WATE (We are the Engels!), it will most often be Caleb’s voice. At least that’s what we’re thinking! I truly believe he is such a great resource for married couples because the guy is honestly SO wise, so patient, so real, and so non-judgmental. HIS voice for marriage is a really beautiful and unique one and I want to elevate that!
Before we wrap up this exciting announcement, something you must know (and that if you follow along you will hear A LOT!!) is that we are never, ever, ever claiming to “know it all” when it comes to marriage or even to be a couple that others would look UP to. We want to be a couple that others just look to. A couple that has a messy and beautiful marriage that they want to fight for. A couple that believes that if sharing their experiences can make others feel less alone, then hell — let’s share them. But we are only ONE couple with our ONE perspective. We cannot stress this enough.
Before we got married (I can’t believe I’m going here … but I am), I often thought to myself, “Our marriage is going to be DIFFERENT. I just know it. We’re going to work at it, be proactive, lean into God, and intentionally pursue each other. I don’t want to be one of those ‘marriage-is-hard-people.’”
Well guess what, MARRIAGE IS HARD.
I sometimes wonder if we fight more than the average couple? I’m going to say it’s a combination of extremely different personalities, upbringings, and my overall bratty-ness. We have conflict a lot, that’s just the truth. Even though we work at it, even though we try to be proactive, even though we try to lean into God and intentionally pursue each other. We still have conflict.
But conflict leads to transformation.
Conflict leads to growth.
Conflict leads to compassion and relatability.
Conflict leads to INTIMACY. At least it can if you let it. I believe this with all that I am because I’ve experienced it time and time again.
Even though we have conflict, I would marry my husband 1,000 times over.
We fight and I LOVE marriage. They can coincide.
If any of this relates to you in any way, well then welcome.
We are the Engels.