Welcome back to marriage Monday! We missed last month’s installment, however, we are back + ready to continuing diving into this topic with you guys!! Today I (Caleb) am going to share three things with you guys that I’m going to start committing to in my marriage with Maison.  I hope we make it clear that we love, support + believe in marriage! And if we haven’t, or if this is your first time hear, we want you to know that above everything else!! WE LOVE MARRIAGE!!

That being said, we aren’t perfect.

I want to take a step out in faith + share with you guys 3 things that I believe that I need to invest time + effort in to enhance our marriage! Sharing things like this can be hard + scary, but we want to be real with you guys because for everyone who’s married out there, or wants to be married some day, should know that it is a journey … and journeys come with lots of growth : )

1.     Laziness. I admit it. Going through day-to-day life with each other 24/7 can become routine. In this routine state, it is easy to forget the small things like little notes, slow dancing in the living room, or just taking the time to tell Maison how special she is. Sitting here writing this post almost hurts because I know how much she loves these things. Today I commit to doing one purposeful small thing a day to make Maison feel special as my wife.

2.     Pursuing my relationship with God. This one is really hard to admit! It’s not that I haven’t been pursuing my relationship with God. I just haven’t been pursuing it in a way that is specific to our marriage. Because I love Maison, I want to be not only strengthening my own relationship with God, but also pursuing her spiritual health + committing to praying for both her + our marriage. Now, I know my personality + how hard it can be to commit to things, so because of this, I want to start small so that I can make this one stick! Today I commit 5-10 minutes a day to praying intentionally for Maison’s relationship with God + our marriage.

3.     Hugs. I know that one of Maison’s love languages is physical touch, however, because of my laziness, I don’t take intentional time every day to just give Maison a big hug (if you are unfamiliar with the 5 Love Languages, check them out here!! It is a really unfortunate thing that I want to change! Today I commit to giving Maison AT LEAST 5 intentional hugs a day! YAY!

I admit that I will probably fail quite often at these, but I want to share these with you guys for two reasons. One, I believe that writing things down makes the possibility of them actually happening FAR greater. So, a pretty selfish reason! Two, to be open about the fact that we have struggles in our marriage but with community we can come together to make ourselves the best version of us that we can be.

We always welcome any encouragement you guys have for us + our marriage, + we would like to extend the same to all of you! If you have any words of encouragement, any ideas you have for bettering your own marriages or relationships, stories about applying these three things to your own marriages or relationships, or anything else, don’t hesitate to reach out! : ) Now, in the spirit of the number three, + to my really bad jokes: three cheers for marriage!!